i sometimes see people here talk about having literal friends while not being out and i just get so fucking confused each time because how does that even happen? after trooning out i just couldnt. i couldnt do this shit. even if i look like a man, being deadnamed, misgendered and treated like a man by ‘friends’ hurts mentally so much more than just being alone. so much so that its been years since i had irl friends

  • modemoder
    5·
    2 months ago

    the people i’m out too misgender me anyway LMAO

    • theirsairOP
      2·
      2 months ago

      dump their asses if you can. im so serious my mental health got so much better even while being alone

  • neby
    3·
    2 months ago

    Because it’s embarrassing and I don’t want anybody to know.

    • theirsairOP
      1·
      2 months ago

      okay? you dont have to tell anybody you can just distance yourself like i did and be friendless (well if you can)

      • Fuwarei
        1·
        2 months ago

        Humans are social creatures, friendships are worth it even if they bring pain

      • neby
        1·
        2 months ago

        But I like my friends and want to spend time with them :(

  • Alex
    2·
    2 months ago

    idk. it could be because im some kind of non binoid but i literally couldnt give less of a shit about being misgendered or whatever.

    like the only reason i care about getting sir’d by strangers is cause it means i look like a man to them. if someone knows im a tranny and sirs me anyway or whatever but i passed and they were just being a dickhead i wouldnt really care

      • Alex
        1·
        2 months ago

        the social stuff has never mattered to me. if I had a body and face i was happy with i wouldnt care about my friends calling me bro and dude. its more evidence im faketrans 😔

        • theirsairOP
          2·
          2 months ago

          nah youre trutrans just a not fully binary one

  • RtHonAlice
    1·
    2 months ago

    I’ve known them since before trooning out…I just don’t know what to tell them. I’ve always looked androgynous and did not behave manly, so I’m getting away with it. It is still tough living a lie.

    • theirsairOP
      1·
      2 months ago

      why are you all clinging onto those friendships?? i just wanna understand. would being alone be that much worse??

      • RtHonAlice
        1·
        2 months ago

        They’ve always treated me well. I have no reason to ditch them. I just don’t know what to tell them…or why. I want everything to stay like it used to…as if the trans issue never existed.

        • theirsairOP
          1·
          2 months ago

          you know that it wont stay like it used to right? the current thing is all based on a lie since its not the actual you and you either tell them or they find out, it wont stay hidden forever. its better to bite the bullet early and make new friends past trooning out

          • RtHonAlice
            1·
            2 months ago

            I don’t want everything to be about being trans. I want to be more than my disease. If they find out, so be it. But I’ll not tell them on my own.

            • theirsairOP
              1·
              2 months ago

              well if you can stomach the being treated like a man thing, misgendered and deadnamed then sure i guess

              • RtHonAlice
                1·
                2 months ago

                Yeah, misgendering and deadnaming doesn’t bother me much. And nobody who knows me treats me like a man, kek.

                • theirsairOP
                  1·
                  2 months ago

                  nobody who knows me treats me like a man

                  hon in the name

                  i keep falling for this shit… please honlarpers give me a break :(