i sometimes see people here talk about having literal friends while not being out and i just get so fucking confused each time because how does that even happen? after trooning out i just couldnt. i couldnt do this shit. even if i look like a man, being deadnamed, misgendered and treated like a man by ‘friends’ hurts mentally so much more than just being alone. so much so that its been years since i had irl friends

  • RtHonAlice
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    2 months ago

    I’ve known them since before trooning out…I just don’t know what to tell them. I’ve always looked androgynous and did not behave manly, so I’m getting away with it. It is still tough living a lie.

    • theirsairOP
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      2 months ago

      why are you all clinging onto those friendships?? i just wanna understand. would being alone be that much worse??

      • RtHonAlice
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        2 months ago

        They’ve always treated me well. I have no reason to ditch them. I just don’t know what to tell them…or why. I want everything to stay like it used to…as if the trans issue never existed.

        • theirsairOP
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          2 months ago

          you know that it wont stay like it used to right? the current thing is all based on a lie since its not the actual you and you either tell them or they find out, it wont stay hidden forever. its better to bite the bullet early and make new friends past trooning out

          • RtHonAlice
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            2 months ago

            I don’t want everything to be about being trans. I want to be more than my disease. If they find out, so be it. But I’ll not tell them on my own.

            • theirsairOP
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              2 months ago

              well if you can stomach the being treated like a man thing, misgendered and deadnamed then sure i guess

              • RtHonAlice
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                2 months ago

                Yeah, misgendering and deadnaming doesn’t bother me much. And nobody who knows me treats me like a man, kek.

                • theirsairOP
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                  2 months ago

                  nobody who knows me treats me like a man

                  hon in the name

                  i keep falling for this shit… please honlarpers give me a break :(

                  • RtHonAlice
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                    2 months ago

                    My dysphoria is still very bad if that helps…but yeah, my username is stolen valour and I mainly picked it because I thought the usual abbreviation for Right Honourable was funny.