tresedose to 4tran4 · 21 days agoYou don't owe your parents anythingmessage-squaremessage-square25linkfedilinkarrow-up116arrow-down12file-text
arrow-up114arrow-down1message-squareYou don't owe your parents anythingtresedose to 4tran4 · 21 days agomessage-square25linkfedilinkfile-text
minus-squareFuwareilinkfedilinkarrow-up2arrow-down1·21 days agoI do owe them having a good and normal successful life and giving them grandchildren, but I won’t be able to.
minus-squaretresedoseOPlinkfedilinkarrow-up1·21 days agowhy do you owe them grandchildren, because they did the bare minimum?
minus-squareFuwareilinkfedilinkarrow-up2·21 days agoBecause they love me deep down and they went through so much struggle for me, and I want to make them happy and proud of me
minus-squaretresedoseOPlinkfedilinkarrow-up1·21 days agoand the only way to make them “proud” is forcing yourself to have children?
minus-squaretresedoseOPlinkfedilinkarrow-up2·21 days agoyou should live your life for yourself, not for others (cliche phrase, but it’s true)
minus-squareFuwareilinkfedilinkarrow-up1·21 days agoI should live my life so it benefits me and others the most
minus-squaretresedoseOPlinkfedilinkarrow-up1·21 days agoexcept forcing yourself to have children doesn’t benefit you at all, it actually does the contrary
minus-squareFuwareilinkfedilinkarrow-up1·21 days agoYeah I agree that it exceeds my well being and doesn’t benefit my parents enough to justify it. And sometimes you really can’t make good decisions, your biology instinctually does otherwise.
I do owe them having a good and normal successful life and giving them grandchildren, but I won’t be able to.
why do you owe them grandchildren, because they did the bare minimum?
Because they love me deep down and they went through so much struggle for me, and I want to make them happy and proud of me
and the only way to make them “proud” is forcing yourself to have children?
No, I mean I just don’t want to disappoint them
you should live your life for yourself, not for others (cliche phrase, but it’s true)
I should live my life so it benefits me and others the most
except forcing yourself to have children doesn’t benefit you at all, it actually does the contrary
Yeah I agree that it exceeds my well being and doesn’t benefit my parents enough to justify it. And sometimes you really can’t make good decisions, your biology instinctually does otherwise.
Selfish phrase, I am others
lol