not in some vague effortmaxxing kind of way. im not talking about transition. i mean within personal growth.

i know most of you are really young, basically all of us are traumatized in someway, but growth is still possible. you dont have to believe it will work, but giving up or refusing to even try are the only ways you can fail.

you can stumble, fall down, restart bad habits, push everyone away again and again. but as long as you are still trying, then it isnt over. its okay to make mistakes, we all do. its what you choose to do in the aftermath that matters and defines your character

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      of course it does, and as cheesy at is sounds coming from a random tranny on the internet, im proud of you. please keep trying

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    It’s also worth mentioning that your progress is incredible and very inspiring

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      thank you. i appreciate it even if i dont necessarily see it myself. if anything i feel like i wish i could be more like you sometimes tbh

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      i used to think i was always doomed to be the way i was back when i was 18-21. i behaved a lot like everyone here. i was really misanthropic, bitter, etc.

      im still tired all the time, im still suicidal, but im trying. i try to see the good when i can, appreciate it, hold on to it. i try to be kinder to myself, even if it doesnt help with the pain.

      because thats all i can do really. whether its enough or not doesnt matter, as long as im still here, i might as well try.

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        happy for your personal growth! just the effort of trying to be better and more kind goes such a long way 💜

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      so most of the users (20 year olds often act like teens too)

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        the 20 year olds also act like teens cause we stunted, I mentioned specifically teens cause they still have time to progress before it starts damaging their adult life

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          real, but even if you’re older, you can still progress it just gets a bit more difficult and some opportunities get lost.

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    people tell me i’m young at 20 and have my life ahead of me but… with how foggy my childhood memories are i don’t know if i can feel young, or old, or middle aged. i barely feel alive. it’s weird… i was around really old people a lot in my childhood, way more than anyone my age, maybe that’s part of it

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      trust me, i get it. i have essentially no memories from before i was 10. much of my life is a void, and i have spent the majority of it wishing i didnt have it.

      im 25 now, and while 5 years doesnt seem like a lot at first, it is. i am a completey different person to who i was even just 2 years ago. we are constantly changing, we just dont realize it.

      all this is to say, that you are young. even when it feels impossible to keep going, as long as you can try for one more day at a time, that’s enough.

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        i hope you’re right. my life changed so much in the last 2 years, and now recently i have got a chance at a fresh start away from everyone who knew me. that happened less than 3 months ago but i don’t even feel like anything changed. i was so hopeful for the first few weeks, then i gave up over something dumb and never got back up since then. maybe i should try my best again. nothing changes if i cry in bed all day, no one is coming to save me. it’s scary and it hurts but no one will help me so i have to do it myself again, right?

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    Being delusional helps a lot with determination. Sometimes your natural will isn’t good enough when you’re being a rational person and eventually become disillusioned.

    Delusion-pill with me twin, we’re all gonna make it(⁠ㆁ⁠ω⁠ㆁ⁠)

    My favorite is god/superiority complex that every cissoids are stupid and evil, feeding my delusion of grandeur °^°

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      Looking at the mirror and touching my body gives me dysphoria? WRONG, actually I’m gonna delude myself into having AGP, I LOVE my body, I will make out with the girl in the mirror :P

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        I think it’s less suddenly loving your body and more realizing that the only options are troon or die, hrtrep fucking sucks and delusion is a means to an end

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          Very hyperbolic since I’m a girlfag, true. But even if self-delusion is just a mean for an end, that doesn’t necessarily make it bad. Being a means to an end of dysphoria in itself, is good enough.

          Gathering kindle, lighting a spark, maybe failing, lighting another, is also just a mean to end the cold. But if you can buy yourself enough time to potentially make way for self-acceotance, wouldn’t that be better than just rolling over and taking it.

          You’ll eventually have to take matters into your own hands. Ending misery would make way for greater joy, even if the means were solely just to end sorrow rather than be anything productive.

          Is what I think, but that shouldn’t make you feel awful for taking a rest atm and not moving into a commited action yet, just thinking of, wishing for, and planning towards a better day itself is progress =ω=

          Just my grain of salt °^°

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    Holy hopefuel. This is based as hell! Love you, Girl. This means a lot. We should all uplift ourselves ♡