the trvke no one wants to hear

  • thrwy809
    2·
    20 days ago

    idk i go outside and talk to ppl and stuff already but im just ugly and unlovable

      • thrwy809
        1·
        20 days ago

        i’ll never have a. partner no matter how many times i try

              • thrwy809
                1·
                19 days ago

                why not? i go to social events and make a genuine effort to talk to people. how is that not trying?

                • FutileTransition1984OP
                  2·
                  19 days ago

                  it’s a defense mechanism to perceived failure, if you expected it, it can’t upset you as bad, so you don’t have to try as hard because it doesn’t matter as much if things don’t go your way.

                  this is a real observed thing amongst students who purposefully sabotage their sleep or something to that effect before an exam so they can say “oh well I slept poorly so that’s why I failed, of course I couldn’t put in as much effort”

                  failure is just another chance at success

  • Maffy
    2·
    20 days ago

    I could maybe find a partner if I wasn’t socially inept. Tho finding anyone who is accepting irl seems near impossible, let alone a partner…

      • Maffy
        1·
        20 days ago

        waaaa I will stop dooming I promiseeee 😭😭

        But genuinely like what do I do. Dating apps???

        • FutileTransition1984OP
          3·
          20 days ago

          do your best to put yourself out there, go to places where similar minded people gather, if all you look for is a partner you’ll struggle to find anything authentic, if you try your best to be a good person and a friend to good people you will find human connection, and that is what a relationship grows from. many people want friends but don’t want to take the first step of being a friend until they already have them

          • Maffy
            2·
            20 days ago

            Places where similar minded people gather… I tried, can’t find it. Other than this place I mean

            • FutileTransition1984OP
              1·
              20 days ago

              they exist, failing that then yeah, people find success on dating apps but it’s not for everyone

  • Cambi
    1·
    19 days ago

    Yeah, no shot. Not everyone will get to experience relationships in their life, it’s alright.

      • Cambi
        1·
        19 days ago

        I appreciate positivity, but there is no chance I would find a vegan t4t partner in a small city inside conservative and transphobic country. Especially with me being unable to work and having to depend on others.

        • FutileTransition1984OP
          2·
          19 days ago

          obviously you understand your situation best and you should stay safe, but a better future and a better life is always worth fighting for, I wish you the best

  • soullessPieceOfMeat
    1·
    20 days ago

    perhaps a chaser that will just use me and abuse my feelings, no sane person that isn’t a chaser wants to date a hon

          • soullessPieceOfMeat
            1·
            20 days ago

            I can’t even make friends tho, I have no social skills at all, I don’t even know how relationships even start, do you have to look for it? where? how?

            • FutileTransition1984OP
              2·
              20 days ago

              searching for a relationship tends to lead to surface level and inauthentic connections, if you try your best to be a good person to good people around you, attend events for your interests or hobbies to meet like minded people, you’ll find real human connections that a relationship to grow from, you just have to be able to be a friend to people you aren’t yet friends with

                • FutileTransition1984OP
                  1·
                  20 days ago

                  pick whatever looks the most fun or the coolest, if you don’t like it then at least you tried something new and maybe learnt something from it, and then pick the next coolest or most fun looking hobby

      • justsomefag
        1·
        20 days ago

        I mean i‘d also advise against doing what i did since it’s very likely to get someone very mentally ill

            • Maffy
              1·
              20 days ago

              I mean I grew close to someone from here but they were very mentally ill.

              • justsomefag
                2·
                20 days ago

                Ah yeah, i‘m really sorry that happened to you. Caring for someone who’s suicidal is very difficult, I understand that

  • theirsair
    1·
    19 days ago

    find one where? in a shithole post soviet town with 15k population?

    • FutileTransition1984OP
      1·
      19 days ago

      ok I think it’d be inconsiderate to paste my copypasta in reply, I genuinely don’t know, but I wish you the best

      • theirsair
        3·
        19 days ago

        like id agree with you if I lived in a city but yeahhhhh… stuff really changes your perspective when you check tagmap and see that the closest tranny is in another country

        • theirsair
          1·
          19 days ago

          bruh wtf i checked just now and apparently a new tranny popped in to the city close to me

          • theirsair
            1·
            19 days ago

            im interested in guys tho so oughhh maybe friend potential then

            • FutileTransition1984OP
              1·
              19 days ago

              friends can become partners, or introduce you to potential partners, worst case scenario a friend is a friend, if it’s safe shoot your shot

              • theirsair
                2·
                19 days ago

                yeah i did, just now. but yeah as i said earlier im interested in guys and that one is a mtf soooo nuh uh

  • rank1bedrotter
    1·
    20 days ago

    Everyone’s disgusted by my existence + I’m a giga autist tho, can’t even make friends how am I ever meant to find a partner

      • rank1bedrotter
        1·
        20 days ago

        No like actually what can I even do everyone irl legitimately hates me I’ve tried putting myself out there but no one wants to be around me

        • FutileTransition1984OP
          1·
          20 days ago

          all I can say is to keep trying, do your best to be a good person, not for the purpose of finding someone but for the sake of being a good person, you can find your people eventually

  • Ristli
    21·
    20 days ago

    Genuinely, how? Can‘t even make friends…

        • FutileTransition1984OP
          2·
          20 days ago

          be a good friend to people who you aren’t friends with yet, relationships tend to grow from authentic human connection of mutual respect

          • Ristli
            1·
            20 days ago

            I‘ll try… I guess my biggest problem is that everyone I meet seems to already have plenty of connections, and I don‘t have anything to offer really.