it’s a defense mechanism to perceived failure, if you expected it, it can’t upset you as bad, so you don’t have to try as hard because it doesn’t matter as much if things don’t go your way.
this is a real observed thing amongst students who purposefully sabotage their sleep or something to that effect before an exam so they can say “oh well I slept poorly so that’s why I failed, of course I couldn’t put in as much effort”
i’ll never have a. partner no matter how many times i try
that kind of thought pattern is one of the things holding you back
how? i still try
you cannot truly try if you expect to fail
why not? i go to social events and make a genuine effort to talk to people. how is that not trying?
it’s a defense mechanism to perceived failure, if you expected it, it can’t upset you as bad, so you don’t have to try as hard because it doesn’t matter as much if things don’t go your way.
this is a real observed thing amongst students who purposefully sabotage their sleep or something to that effect before an exam so they can say “oh well I slept poorly so that’s why I failed, of course I couldn’t put in as much effort”
failure is just another chance at success
i get that but i genuinely think im trying my best and not sabotaging myself
well, I’m just a stranger on the internet, so I can’t decide that for you, if that’s how you feel then keep at it, I believe in you