i get that mutual suffering is like a horrible way to make a friendship, im glad my friends keep me around and one of them wants me to go out with a group sometime to a rave, but like, do you find it harder to make friends even in fields of mutual interest or understanding? idk friends with me were never a strong suit i just get adopted by groups a lot.
I feel like I’m stepping over boundaries whenever I act like a person I’ve talked to is my friend
its really hard that way too, ive found that people who seek you out at least are more friend material starting out, though ones that are easily talked to are more acquaintance material. i guess its a way to find out, because its really just a game of social catch.
ive been an outsider to most groups since as long as i can remember. too neurodivergent for normies, seemingly not weird enough for the autists in my town. i wanna make new irl friends soon tho, but due to circumstances i dont get the oppurtunity to. making new friends might be hard but its something i want to do for myself.
i felt that way in high school, tho one of my best friends that kept in contact with me was in my high school. i ended up being autistic and sullying a bunch tho because i was stupid and depressed, but id like to think they are doing well. tbh i think everyone has a chance but the more they shortchange themselves or feel like outcasts (even if its “true”) have a harder time. i just try to act friendly, but not too suck up. idk im rambling.
i havent made a real friend in uhhhhh like. ever?
it seems like ur at least able to make acquaintances from what ive seen on here. what would count as a real friend to u?
idk… something like, talking deeply one on one decently regularly and going to places together… i had some stuff happen to me that kinda fucked my ability to form connections so i got terminal ‘be friendly with everybody but keep them at arms length’ disease…
i get it, it took me a while to admit to myself i was lonelier that way tho. some of my friends would do a lot for me because ive done a lot for them. i just always thought it was what a person should do, but i guess i was always their friend. i hope you can find someone you can be more comfortable with!
