i always look down on people when they’re in relationships where the only thing they get out of it is being loved. it’s incredibly selfish and egotistical to focus on being loved instead of loving your partner. you should always maximize loving someone , and minimize loving being loved.
so wouldn’t it be wrong of me to be upset over being unlovable??? ur own lovability should be an entirely neutral trait to u , since it doesn’t matter if someone loves u or not. all that matters is that u love them. stop being self-centred
I don’t think you know how relationships work like at all
um how?
I think loving someone and being lovable are intertwined, like when your partner receives a lot of affection from you then they’ll want to give you affection too, unless the relationship sucks, and you should be able to accept that affection and like it too, there’s a balance to be found there that works best for you and your partner. So in a way giving them love is part of what makes you lovable. But yes i agree only caring about that is also bad
oh ya i guess so , sorry
Don’t apologize my first comment came off a bit rude i get where you’re coming from
everybody wants to be loved, so I don’t blame less secure types for wanting it in return. We’re humans, we need love to.
i’m saying that you shouldn’t want to be loved
obviously i don’t blame people for this either , but it is like objectively a bad trait to have. i this is really more important if you’re upset about not being loved , like it’s just an incorrect goal to have , u shouldn’t be bugged by it
It really is not an objectively a bad trait to want to be loved. Everybody naturally wants to be loved by other human beings. We’re social creatures. We need family and friends who love us.
