i always look down on people when they’re in relationships where the only thing they get out of it is being loved. it’s incredibly selfish and egotistical to focus on being loved instead of loving your partner. you should always maximize loving someone , and minimize loving being loved.

so wouldn’t it be wrong of me to be upset over being unlovable??? ur own lovability should be an entirely neutral trait to u , since it doesn’t matter if someone loves u or not. all that matters is that u love them. stop being self-centred

  • blacktarheroine
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    6 days ago

    everybody wants to be loved, so I don’t blame less secure types for wanting it in return. We’re humans, we need love to.

    • awawaOP
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      6 days ago

      i’m saying that you shouldn’t want to be loved

      obviously i don’t blame people for this either , but it is like objectively a bad trait to have. i this is really more important if you’re upset about not being loved , like it’s just an incorrect goal to have , u shouldn’t be bugged by it

      • blacktarheroine
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        6 days ago

        It really is not an objectively a bad trait to want to be loved. Everybody naturally wants to be loved by other human beings. We’re social creatures. We need family and friends who love us.