It also makes me curious to the deeper thoughts people here have on being nonbinary. This question is probably more important.
People making the best out of their situation a lot of the time.
There’s something to be said about the idea that, as I see it, there’s nothing that much different with how people see you between being seen as an nb and being seen as a member of the binary sex you look closest, so enbycoping outside of kweer spaces is something I struggle to imagine anybody doing. I’m enby, and enbymoding just feels like moding as a histrionic member of either sex, it feels like I’m viewed as inherently attention-seeking and annoying, like it’s an instant way to make people think less of me and want to avoid me. I struggle to comprehend why anybody would wanna larp as me as it feels like social sabotage, like volunteering to be the tranny of trannies. But I suppose that could just be my own dysphoria talking. It’s very likely that I only say that because being told “you’re nb? But that doesn’t exist” actually does hurt as it’s deeply personal, and I imagine for those it’s less personal to, it feels better than straight-up being told they’re not their actual target-sex, and at least it enables people to not just gender them as their natal sex 100% of the time. I’m one-in-the same with enbycopers in that sense, I suppose.
I’m trying to work my way up to enbymode but it’s hard. I feel great in androgyny behind closed doors, but I feel like I’m assaulting people’s senses as soon as I go outside. I think succeeding in this would be based tho, in like an abstract way. Not caring about being seen as delusional and attention-seeking and weird and retarded is, like, objectively based. I can’t really argue with that.
Well worded as always. Thank you.
I do not understand what its like to be non binary… but I am not non binary… so its not my place to say… but I approve… if thats what someone is then it is cool… I approve…
I find pretending to be non-binary weird but idc if ppl r enby at all, it doesn’t affect me idk y some trans ppl hate enbies so much
idk y some trans ppl hate enbies so much
Tribalism
I generally see gender dysphoria as a mutation that affects people differently. Nonbinary people are just ones who’s gender dysphoria is more mixed and permutated.
to me enbycoping is just another flavor of boymoding (or girlmoding for trans men) thats more colored by the current zeitgeist, i dunno. it doesnt feel like anything unique to me, just a logical conclusion of how androgyny and stuff is viewed right now
nonbinary-ness is something i would have to think and talk a lot more about before i could give you a full opinion or whatever. i would say i tend to be initially suspicious of people that say theyre nonbinary cause ive been close with sooo many theyfabs in my life but i dont think thats necessarily very reasonable of me lol
That sounds interesting. I want that think piece some time.
to be honest i might well be nonbinary (?), but at least for me, it affects my life much, much less than the fact that im transsex, so i find it hard to identify with as a social category. theres also a sense of the term in which all transsex people are by definition nonbinary, which i think is an idea that has been becoming more popular recently. im curious how you feel about this use of the term
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enbycoping is just sorta smth i decided to adopt after i gave up on ever being fempassing, im like basically at the end of my transition and i look like an androgynous faggot after 3+ yrs of hrt, idk maybe the they/theming just got to my head but at some point i just stopped internally thinking of myself as a woman and just see myself as some weird frankenstein gender experiment, i even stopped asking my bf to she/her me and call me his gf bc the juxtaposition of his language against reality hurts way more than just being they/themed
That sounds bad for you, NGL. Also, don’t make your BF do that!
