I’m really just sorry but it just feels like sexuality inherently invalidates transness and that it should not exist and that a trans person should in the best case scenario literally be asexual until transition, so literally not even capable of feeling any sexual stuff.
Like to me this just feels true… that sexuality makes gender inherently dirty and bad and invalid because if somebody sexualizes wanting to be a woman then clearly they are not a woman or would just want to be that out of sexual reasons…
Being a woman is not inherently sexual and existing with a body, having a gender is non sexual endeavor and so sexuality should not play any role in being trans and wanting to change that gender…
If one’s gender and sexualiy are tangled up, then we have a major problem and need to first remove or fix the sexuality before we can allow any new gender…
Like sex is just bad and if one doesn’t want their gender to be corrupted by that then it has to never have had anyhting to do or be shaped by sexuality.
That’s how it feels to me.
I know that pain and it kept me from transitioning for a very long time. And it’s such a hard pain to carry. The world really, really wants you to believe this. I can’t say that I don’t still feel it.
You will not be able to escape it by joining the hate. That’s going to take you to some dark places. The only chance for relief is transition.
You can think what you want but my wife is very happy to be a lesbian with me, and you should reconsider embracing language that prefers my death instead of this outcome.