surprisingly tough. i had to explain that

  1. i dont want to be a supermodel

  2. there are lots of other differences between me and supermodels

  3. the cost to fix height, along with making my arms proportional, would be too immense to ever achieve

  4. her being told she looks like a guy is because they realized they were wrong, i get stares because they know theyre right

and more!!! i just want to be able to be open with her, why does she insist on not understanding? all she has to do is listen to me :(

  • CutePlushies
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    1 day ago

    Its crazy how cis women all use the same arguments. The model cope, the “I was tall too I was 5’8”, the “just own it, it makes you powerful”

    Good grief.

    Also 5’11 isn’t unsalvageable.

    • SpoonOP
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      1 day ago

      >just own it, it makes you powerful

      as if all of female beauty standards isnt based on being objects, aka not powerful, to men. its better in the past 20 years but its still very much present blegh

  • SpoonOP
    2·
    1 day ago

    tbh im pretty sure this is just her way of coping with me never going out. it MUST be my fault and not the people of the woke city we live in just seeing that im a man, or else her ideology is not the perfect best one :P

  • noneday
    2·
    1 day ago

    same stuff with my mom. for instance she won’t ever acknowledge my appearance being that of a man. it took a lot to get her to admit that i look like a man, and she eventually did, and then she was like “there’s other beauty standards dw!”

    like,

    yeah that’s called being a man

    i cried after that and i never cry. it would be great if anyone can actually understand that im not a man

  • SpoonOP
    2·
    1 day ago

    i ended it with “im just trying to help you understand me. you are not able to change my mind. im sorry for arguing for so long when it achieves nothing”

    • SpoonOP
      2·
      1 day ago

      she told me she was just trying to offer perspective with her many years on earth. blegh.

  • SpoonOP
    2·
    1 day ago

    im only capable of this over sms btw im not debatebroing my mom at the dinner table about this. i started the convo cuz i was extremely suicidal and wanted to feel supported by her thats all i promise im not insane </3

  • Fuwarei
    1·
    1 day ago

    Same, once I troon out I have no idea how I’m going to make it with 181cm. Maybe HRT can shrink me 🥺