I’m a manmoder and don’t pass, but I can’t take the misery of manmoding and hiding anymore, so I feel like I should come out to some people at least so I can hear my chosen name and stuff irl for once. My friends are supportive and would go along with it, but I know it would feel fake and would just be them being nice. And after I come out, there’s not really a way to put the cat back in the bag again. So idk if I should do it :(
If they’re able to accept you for being who you are then I’d say yes.
But I don’t want them to have to consciously remind themselves how to gender and what to call me when their first instinct is still gonna be “man” :(
If they’re really your friends, then that shouldn’t be a problem Neby. They’re supposed to like you as you…
but it’s so embarrassing…
Can you get over the momentary embarrassment to have them perceive you as the real you and gender you correctly?
it would probably feel like they’re misgendering or humouring me though… 😔
Just do it foid
that wears off and after that it just feels nice
The further you go into transition, the more natural it gets. Maybe the best time is not now, but later. I’d suggest coming out when you’re confident enough to face the awkward phase.
It’s been 3 years since I started HRT 😔
Guess “confident enough” is nonexistent metric here. Better be sorry that you’ve done something, than if you haven’t, isn’t it?
unrelated but I love the glegle velvet underground <3
also come out to your friends, i promise it will take a bit of the pain away, especially of you love them
You should always do it. its better to be out than to suffer in silence
