- If I transition openly -> Abuse until Detransition
- If I transition secretly -> Abuse just later on
- If I leave my family -> Family suicide
- if I repress -> 50 years of suffering
- if I do conversion therapy -> suicide
- if I kill myself now -> Family suicide
- If I let them die -> suicide by guilt
This kind of situation cannot be solved…
The only option would be for my family to suddenly accept me being trans… which won’t ever happen.
And to all of you who say my family won’t kill themselves… they’ve already de facto did attempt to just waste away and die when I first ran away…
There is no solution… there is no hope…


I don’t really think they’ll die tbhonest… They’ll get better after they accept they can’t really force you to be as they want like this. Yet, i very deeply understand the risky feeling of them getting sick and not wanting them to die. You know, you’re not their only child, of your parents i mean. They have children to live for besides you.
The issue is that especially my mother is really emotionally dependent on me… if I stay shell be okay but if I go then she won’t… I could stay and troon but then the chance is big they’ll abuse me… and I don’t know how resilient I am…
Then is it possible to slooowly create a distance with your parents? One that won’t kill them and one that you’ll be free in the end?
I’ve tried that and they pulled me back completely over the span of months till I literally had a nervous breakdown and ended up in the hospital due to me destroying my friendships due to me being so neurotic over their increased abuse and hostility and pressure… it’s difficult and honestly they don’t even let me stay away for more than 3 days… which is fucked up… my mother is extremely anxious and emotionally needy… I would beg to have like a… I see you once a week or for stay with you from Friday to Saturday… arrangement or something but ugh… idk…
Idk girl it feels like ultimatum maxxing might be better for you, kinda like, I’m gonna cut all of you away, if you don’t agree meeting with me only 2 days a week or something, and if they start abusing you don’t come back until they promise they won’t do it again, if they do, don’t visit them for 2 weeks kinda stuff.
If I say that though, my mother will immediately break down crying and begging me not to go and lose her mind and my brother will scream at me and wouldn’t that statement be outright abusive to them…?
No, let them scream once. When they finally calm down, they’ll come to terms. You can leave even if they start abusing you.