Look, bi doesn’t feel right… could I get labelled a straggot instead or smth, or like straight and lesbian at the same time?

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    I think it’s because some people use it to be like “im not just a bisexual, I fuck men, women, and trans too” maybe? I dunno I was never really too engaged with all that stuff but that’s been the general impression I’ve had

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      I can see that, it just never feels right to be called bisexual, like pansexual did… like saying I’m bi feels awkward in a way… I’d rather be labeled straight or lesbian depending on how I’m lusting at the time

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        Well, labels are meant to serve us, and not the other way around, so if your use is working for you then ultimately that’s all that really matters. But it may be worthwhile to consider the discomfort more, and really ask the question of what makes pan less awkward than bi for all of that

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          It is, I’m just uncomfortable with the way bisexuality is viewed by the liberal left I think… it’s the Theyfab or Theymab of sexualities I think… because everyone is a little bisexual, so labelling myself as bi, feels clunky, and it’s also because bi just… too mematic in online spaces especially in the way bisexual lighting is often used as a default mood lighting, and I really don’t like the muted tones on the flag… they really are a bit invisible in a sea of bright colors

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            If everyone is a little bisexual, it is severely underacknowledged like your generation is the one that actually had it crack single digits I think? And so I think it’s cool that people are saying it if that’s what they are

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              I guess so, but performative people will do what performative people do, and I’m at a liberal university and it feels like I could throw a stone and hit a bisexual…

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              I am very agnostic to bodies, and am very much attracted to people’s handling of themselves around me