Look, bi doesn’t feel right… could I get labelled a straggot instead or smth, or like straight and lesbian at the same time?
I think it’s because some people use it to be like “im not just a bisexual, I fuck men, women, and trans too” maybe? I dunno I was never really too engaged with all that stuff but that’s been the general impression I’ve had
I can see that, it just never feels right to be called bisexual, like pansexual did… like saying I’m bi feels awkward in a way… I’d rather be labeled straight or lesbian depending on how I’m lusting at the time
Well, labels are meant to serve us, and not the other way around, so if your use is working for you then ultimately that’s all that really matters. But it may be worthwhile to consider the discomfort more, and really ask the question of what makes pan less awkward than bi for all of that
It is, I’m just uncomfortable with the way bisexuality is viewed by the liberal left I think… it’s the Theyfab or Theymab of sexualities I think… because everyone is a little bisexual, so labelling myself as bi, feels clunky, and it’s also because bi just… too mematic in online spaces especially in the way bisexual lighting is often used as a default mood lighting, and I really don’t like the muted tones on the flag… they really are a bit invisible in a sea of bright colors
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I am very agnostic to bodies, and am very much attracted to people’s handling of themselves around me
If everyone is a little bisexual, it is severely underacknowledged like your generation is the one that actually had it crack single digits I think? And so I think it’s cool that people are saying it if that’s what they are
I guess so, but performative people will do what performative people do, and I’m at a liberal university and it feels like I could throw a stone and hit a bisexual…
I think it all boils down to self-identified pansexuals having a history for needlessly creating controversy around the label bisexual, and also the way some people just use it to mean “I date the transes too (unlike those phobic bisexuals)”.
I agree with nazar when I say that there probably could be a valuable way for bisexual and pansexual to co-exist as meaningful terms that are truly distinct from eachother, with bisexual meaning positive/active attraction to all/multiple sexual configurations, and pansexual essentially meaning negative/passive attraction to everybody, so it’s less that pansexuals like men and women and enbies or whatever, and more like they’re into some people who happen to be these things, with no real attraction pattern or specific craving to point to outside of “some people are just hot to me, idk”.
My position in the discourse is rather funny, cuz I mostly avoid the term pansexual for myself and opt for bisexual precisely because I’m very positively attracted to androgyny, and definitely have a specific thing for medically transitioning nonbinary people such as myself (with a comparatively lesser degree of interest in men and women also being present), so hearing people say I oughta use pansexual cuz it excludes enbies and/or trans people is just so fucking funny to me. Like I’m literally too into enbies to be pan as I see it (not just physically-speaking, but, like, spiritually, emotionally, and in my ability to just relate to my partner, etc).
Oh yeah, I find myself to be negatively attracted in the way you describe, I think this is best exemplified in my attraction to Whitney from DoL in both his/her Masc and Fem forms… can’t really explain why
it’s kinda just cuz ppl think the term sounds super woke tbh and bisexual is just used to say you date anyone rlly
the &sexual
Idk what that means
i dunno i was making up nonsense
Ok fair
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exactly
