• neby
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    If “malefail” is being called ma’am by a cashier or having a stranger refer to me as a woman to someone else or something, then yeah, occasionally. Not often though.

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        Had an old man on the tram call me “strong young woman” and ask me to carry him up the stairs a few months ago, that was kinda awkward and people stared

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          It happened a few more times than that iirc

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            like once or twice a month maybe. sometimes there’s months where it doesn’t happen, and sometimes it happens twice in a day. it’s pretty random and somehow doesn’t depend at all on what I’m wearing, if I’ve even shaved or done my hair or whatever.

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              I think this might be because people here just rarely gender at all, i‘ve had months where i wasn’t called either one.

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                That’s what I’ve been saying. It’s hard to gauge how people gender you in their head unless they talk about you in third person