the bf:

good:

  • seems to want to be a man (fully transitioning)
  • compliments brainwormed gf and cares about her
  • tries to console her

bad:

  • self identifies as afab

the gf:

good:

  • is a woman (since i’m a woman i’m biased towards women)
  • dysphoric

bad:

  • snaps at her bf
  • outwardly brainwormed
  • makes no effort to transition or pass
  • no hrt
  • worms about not having feminine shape despite not taking hrt
  • calls her bf “not really trans” (i could get this if her bf wasn’t transitioning…but he’s literally transitioning more than she even is)

actually nvm i decided the gf is def in the wrong here

  • nowhere girl
    6·
    3 days ago

    he is trans but doesnt ID as trans. she is trans but doesnt medicate dysphoria. id say gf is in the wrong for crashing out on him and should take her pills. and that for as long as the bf calls himself an ‘agender afab with dysphoria’ he doesnt get to dictate whether or not he has claim on trans experience.

    • DezEnglish
      2·
      3 days ago

      He has top and bottom dysphoria. One day he’ll grow up and identify as a man. You could argue he doesn’t have a claim on the trans experience but she’s dating him. If it hurts his feelings she should just keep ts to herself.

      Don’t date hefab if you dont like hefabs

  • DezEnglish
    3·
    3 days ago

    He should break up with her tbh. I get having bad dysphoria but if it’s making you snap on your partner regularly you shouldn’t be in a relationship

  • noneday
    3·
    3 days ago

    yeah gf in the wrong for sure. very strange behavior but I really hope she gets on hrt asap.

  • CutePlushies
    2·
    3 days ago

    This is just a complete yikes of a situation all around tbhon. GF is more in the wrong but like eek.