I’m usually a pretty hardcore boymode extremist, but today my gf asked me if I think boymode really is the right thing for me in the long term. My therapist asked me the same not too long ago and wants to push me to girlmode. I don’t know what to do. My body is alright-ish, just too fat, but I loathe my face. My voice is untrained and bad. My gf says my body language is very feminine, but at the same time she says when I speak I’m more brash and blunt than most men. I feel I would be a very poor copy of a woman. Boymode is simple, boymode is safe, why do people question the mode of the boy? What am I supposed to do? I just want a relatively easy life, not to become a hon or optics nuke just because girlmoding is something one has to do, no matter the consequences or chances of success.

  • CutePlushies
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    3 days ago

    I’ve seen you (I thiiiink?), if you girlmoded you would not be an optics nuke hon you don’t have the looks or build to be that at all. Never heard u speak but yah maybe voice train if you sound like that.

    • RtHonAliceOP
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      3 days ago

      I have never posted my face on the internet anywhere, ever.

      I’m voice training a bit every other way, but I don’t really know how to progress I wish I could control resonance and vocal weight at will, but apparently that’s bad and people are supposed to get used to a different kind of voice via practice to avoid strain.

    • RtHonAliceOP
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      3 days ago

      I always dressed rather androgynously because for example women’s trousers fit me while men’s didn’t. But at the same time I was never interested in skirts or dresses or generally very feminine clothes. Nothing about that has changed, I feel those clothes are not what I am. I have zero craving to wear them. For this reason I feel girlmoding has a high cost for zero gain. Malefailing is nice because it gives me the feeling that maybe I’m not completely chopped. But generally speaking not getting into trouble is far more important to me than passing to others. My main issue is that I don’t pass to myself and girlmoding would not change that.

      • puppyoomf
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        3 days ago

        girlmoding doesnt mean u have to wear a skirt though

        • RtHonAliceOP
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          3 days ago

          That’s the thing though, what’s the point where girlmoding starts? If androgynous clothes for women count I have been girlmoding for a decade.

        • RtHonAliceOP
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          3 days ago

          Underwear!? Like, who even sees that, can’t I just keep wearing boxer shorts?

          I have no holes for earrings. I polish my nails regularly because they are fragile and break easily, I really try to maintain them well. I don’t know if my haircut is feminine, but I often get compliments that my hair looks good. I never used makeup.

  • puppyoomf
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    3 days ago

    u can keep boymodibg if you want but u should voice train

    • RtHonAliceOP
      1·
      3 days ago

      I’m trying, but it’s awful and I feel I have no way to see if I’m making progress.