My friends constantly call me tranny, I don’t react but it’s beginning to really bother me. I hate being othered and degraded especially since a lot of my life is like that. But I feel like if I do get mad I’ll be a bad tranny and they’ll hate.
Sometimes it just really really hurts though. Like my friend I’ve been known for 7 years and I’ve always been good to. When my friends went to the mall without me and I asked why, he said “because we didn’t want you there, tranny”. And it just really hurt me, when he said it like that. I’ve been close to him for so long and he was like my best friend in middle school and it’s amazing we’re still friends.
Should I tell them to stop saying it?
you should fucking
killabadon himno but I kinda rely on them all and I’ve known them for so long.
i want to cry reading this
i know its never as simple as “get better friends” but i would absolutely feel mad and hurt by that and its ok if you do too. thats a really really awful thing to say to someone
Yes. I’ve changed my mind. I should confront him or my other friends the next time it happens. Thank you ❤️
it may not be as easy, but you dont have to wait until they do it again to say something. just because you acted like it was ok doesnt mean it really was, and they know better. i wish you luck in whatever you choose. take care
Do these guys even want you around at all?
I don’t know
yes tell them to stop. im sorry
wtf was he serious
I am not sure. He is kind of just an angry person in general and doesn’t mean a lot of what he says
i would unironically call him a cissy and a magacuck, his validity as a friend depends if he would be pissed at that
He probably wouldn’t just argue back though and go on a rant about it.
then hes just an intense person, like me. if its too much for you, you could ask him to turn it down, usually normal ppl will oblige, if its too much for you, maybe thats not good for you two to be friends
This runs deeper than just being called tranny.
“because we didn’t want you there, tranny”
He could have replaced “tranny” with your name and it would still be an unacceptable thing for a friend to say. I can feel the disdain just from reading it. You should start to stand up for yourself, if you even want to associate with these people any further. Chances are that they will become even meaner when you demand the respect you deserve, but that way you will see how they truly feel about you. Don’t get emotional and throw a fit, simply tell them to their faces the slurring ends today, here and now, period.
Last time I stood up for myself with them (told one of them to not be weirdly physically and touchy and it ended with my getting a water bottle up my butt). I know how bad that sounds when I write it out but, they didn’t know I was trans or gay at the time so they didn’t think it would hurt me very bad
You just don’t do that to people, whether they know you’re gay or trans makes no difference…tormenting you seems so normal for them. There are good people out there who will treat you in a dignified way, you deserve that. Don’t sell yourself for anything less.
Thank you. I will try to find people who treat me better. I’m gonna start slowly distancing myself from them if it doesn’t stop.
It will be hard, but you can do this. The biggest step for ending prolonged abuse is coming to the realisation that the situation is wrong in the first place and not normal at all. This is because the human mind loves habit and normalises anything if it just happens long enough. It will get easier from here on. You got this.
