My friends constantly call me tranny, I don’t react but it’s beginning to really bother me. I hate being othered and degraded especially since a lot of my life is like that. But I feel like if I do get mad I’ll be a bad tranny and they’ll hate.

Sometimes it just really really hurts though. Like my friend I’ve been known for 7 years and I’ve always been good to. When my friends went to the mall without me and I asked why, he said “because we didn’t want you there, tranny”. And it just really hurt me, when he said it like that. I’ve been close to him for so long and he was like my best friend in middle school and it’s amazing we’re still friends.

Should I tell them to stop saying it?

  • RtHonAlice
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    21 days ago

    This runs deeper than just being called tranny.

    “because we didn’t want you there, tranny”

    He could have replaced “tranny” with your name and it would still be an unacceptable thing for a friend to say. I can feel the disdain just from reading it. You should start to stand up for yourself, if you even want to associate with these people any further. Chances are that they will become even meaner when you demand the respect you deserve, but that way you will see how they truly feel about you. Don’t get emotional and throw a fit, simply tell them to their faces the slurring ends today, here and now, period.

    • DepressomoderOP
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      21 days ago

      Last time I stood up for myself with them (told one of them to not be weirdly physically and touchy and it ended with my getting a water bottle up my butt). I know how bad that sounds when I write it out but, they didn’t know I was trans or gay at the time so they didn’t think it would hurt me very bad

      • RtHonAlice
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        21 days ago

        You just don’t do that to people, whether they know you’re gay or trans makes no difference…tormenting you seems so normal for them. There are good people out there who will treat you in a dignified way, you deserve that. Don’t sell yourself for anything less.

        • DepressomoderOP
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          21 days ago

          Thank you. I will try to find people who treat me better. I’m gonna start slowly distancing myself from them if it doesn’t stop.

          • RtHonAlice
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            21 days ago

            It will be hard, but you can do this. The biggest step for ending prolonged abuse is coming to the realisation that the situation is wrong in the first place and not normal at all. This is because the human mind loves habit and normalises anything if it just happens long enough. It will get easier from here on. You got this.