It’s not even solely exclusive to that kind of upbringing either. Even people who didn’t grow up that way will give the benefit of the doubt, because it’s so outside of typical human reasoning that someone would be malicious on PURPOSE, especially to the degree that they can, and often do, stoop.

We thought we won the lottery, but they were winning the lottery for avoiding accountability.

I definitely was too understanding, and I think that he wanted to see how far he could push it with me and what I would tolerate. If I knew what I knew now, I would’ve never tolerated what I did. Saving this post so I can remind myself.

I was unfortunately someone who loved them deeply, but did not set and keep firm boundaries with them.

Right on. The hardest part for me was the helplessness, the self destruction and innocence she emitted. I see now that even that was feigned, even that was part of the manipulation, the cycle of abuse they knowingly or unknowingly inflict upon those who love them deeply but do not know how to set and keep firm boundaries with them.

IDK it’s fun

Yeah

IDK

What’s that?