How do I even go about not seeing myself as a cis chaser? I hope to God I’m not one. Normally I’m pretty good with introspective stuff and reaching understandings, but this one sticks in the back of my brain. Am I taking advantage of my girlfriend?
I don’t think someone taking advantage of their girlfriend would be worried about potentially taking advantage of their girlfriend
I suppose that makes sense, but I’ll still do my best so I don’t ever become remotely close to that
do u only fetishize ur girlfriend, or do u love her?
I love her, absolutely. Never would I dream of doing a gross sexual thing to her. But I also feel like a chaser, since I can only imagine myself dating trans people.
do u think u can only imagine urself dating trans people because u can only imagine urself dating ur girlfriend, who is trans? do u feel the same thing about other traits ur girlfriend has?
I didn’t really pick up on what you meant here, But right now I couldn’t imagine myself dating anybody else. That’s kind of like mental cheating and I respect her too much to do that.
I’m pretty sure u aren’t a chaser
You love in other people what you already have inside you, but has yet to bloom. I personally think that we are born with a true “essence”, and our lives are just the exercise of uncovering that essence, of truly unwrapping yourself and gifting the world what god envisioned when creating you. Maybe there’s something to be uncovered within you that makes it so your heart beats to the same drum as trans people’s hearts do.
You love who you love. Please choose to see that love with grace and compassion. You love trans people and you can’t seem to imagine connecting with someone who’s not trans. That does not have to mean something nefarious. That means you’re putting into words a connection you’re feeling with souls who you feel comfortable around. That can hardly be something evil.
With that i don’t necessarily mean to say that I think you are trans, especially if you don’t identify as such. Life is way more nuanced than that if you’re truly open to view yourself through curious and caring eyes. Myabe it’s something else that resonates with you. Maybe it’s the boldness that you relate to, maybe it’s the defiance of building a life one can thrive with even if that life exists at the margins of civilization. Oppressed people find solace in each other, because suffering is meaningless. But suffering brings us closer with other people who are suffering as well, because we understand.
I would consider myself trans, but sometimes I suppose I can get in my own head.
That makes sense then! I don’t really know if i could truly fall in love and feel safe around a person who is not trans so i totally feel you.
This is impossibly sweet. Well thought out, well written and beautiful. I couldn’t ever have words. Thank you. I really mean it. You have a beautiful beautiful way with words.
I love writing things on your posts because i know that they will be well received. I feel like we speak the same language when talking about our souls. It’s such a refreshing emotion.
As long as you treat your GF well, you’re not taking advantage of her. Chasers are only bad because they don’t see us as our real genders, make us dysphoric, and disrespect us.
