It doesn’t help anybody…
I am for example depressed, have trauma and lead an unhappy life with no purpose and that is filled with feelings of deep inadequacy.
And I ask myself… could it be that I want to be trans just because the idea of being a woman due to trauma has become something that feels safer to me (even if I’m man) than the idea of being with a woman and my wish to transition is just so I can fulfill some deep seated need… essentially instead of feeling adequate and confident enough to express my attraction to a woman and love a woman in a relationship, I instead try to love myself as a woman because I’m scared of failing or being inadequate as a heterosexual man
That plus my father’s abuse due to his extreme hypermasculine expectations and my sexual trauma from pornography have made me afraid and alienated from the idea of being a man and from heterosexuality.
And then I developed dysphoria after the fact… I literally said “okay I want to be a woman because I think then I can fulfill this deep seated need, but trans women need to have dysphoria so now I should start to feel dysphoria” and then and only then after starting to imitate what people said they were dysphoric about, did I start feeling it which to me seems like I induced dysphoria artificially.
Why… why isn’t that a viable explanation!
Isn’t this literally dogmatic and cultish… imagine you talk about you being trans and your feelings and experiences and how you feel this is all to you explainable and somebody simply dismisses you being telling you…
“You’re just an effeminate man, don’t think about it too deeply. It’s not that complicated.”
Wouldn’t that also be unfair…
Here’s the thing tho, you have been doing this same thing for 3 months straight and I can’t just argue with you on all these posts with multiple paragraphs. Maybe you’ll have to figure these things yourself, or someone else will be there to entertain your ramblings, I don’t know. The point is, you can keep doing the same thing over and over again as much as you like, but it gets tiring and I’d rather not see it atp.
I am sorry you are right about it… but this time it’s different. This is genuine and not fueled by self hatred. I am sorry if I have overwhelmed you in the past…