You’re not being stupid. It is scary! I completely understand this reason, I came out 13 years after your planned date, I remember how complicated it still would have been if I told them back then. I understand how that could make you wait. But please keep in mind that it doesn’t get any easier with more time!
It’s just… I feel like I already had the opportunity and that I wasted it, that doing it now… it won’t be… as impactful? that it’ll be wrong…? I don’t know how to explain it, I just… I wish I had done all this coming out and getting hrt in my teens. I think about it every single day.
Why wait?
because i’m fucking stupid and scared of how family will react instead of standing up for myself
You’re not being stupid. It is scary! I completely understand this reason, I came out 13 years after your planned date, I remember how complicated it still would have been if I told them back then. I understand how that could make you wait. But please keep in mind that it doesn’t get any easier with more time!
It’s just… I feel like I already had the opportunity and that I wasted it, that doing it now… it won’t be… as impactful? that it’ll be wrong…? I don’t know how to explain it, I just… I wish I had done all this coming out and getting hrt in my teens. I think about it every single day.
The only way to lose that fixation on the fantasy of what could have been is to make your life one that you want to live. You can still have that.
If you come out before your birthday maybe youd get some useful presents