except coming out at 24 is too damn fucking late, i should’ve done it at 21

  • sludge
    2·
    16 days ago

    I came out at 21 but then did nothing about it even though my family was supportive enough and my friend group already had a bunch of transwomen. Too hesitant and uncertain and lacking in initiative. Just don’t wait. Never wait. At least tell yourself you’re going to do it within the week, the month, whatever.

    • TotalComplexityOP
      3·
      16 days ago

      because i’m fucking stupid and scared of how family will react instead of standing up for myself

      • Allie
        1·
        15 days ago

        You’re not being stupid. It is scary! I completely understand this reason, I came out 13 years after your planned date, I remember how complicated it still would have been if I told them back then. I understand how that could make you wait. But please keep in mind that it doesn’t get any easier with more time!

        • TotalComplexityOP
          1·
          15 days ago

          It’s just… I feel like I already had the opportunity and that I wasted it, that doing it now… it won’t be… as impactful? that it’ll be wrong…? I don’t know how to explain it, I just… I wish I had done all this coming out and getting hrt in my teens. I think about it every single day.

          • Allie
            1·
            15 days ago

            The only way to lose that fixation on the fantasy of what could have been is to make your life one that you want to live. You can still have that.

    • Allie
      3·
      16 days ago

      If you come out before your birthday maybe youd get some useful presents