If anyone was curious about the outcome of https://tranistan.com/post/tranistan.com/53373

It was futile

They never understand

The reply I got back included the line “I think people use identity as a way to dismiss or play down both their own individuality and the value of outside perspectives as a way of essentially promoting solipsism”

My followup opened with “There is a tendency for cis people to talk to trannies like they’re too fucking stupid to understand how to handle their marginalization and that what they really need to hear is the wisdom of people who are unburdened, their clear perspective without the hobby of an identity taking over their life being offered as a beacon to lead me to a place where you will no longer feel bad about me when you see the latest terrible news about trans people.”

It ended with “Don’t call.”

And that settles it. My final significant non-family relationship from pre-transition is dead, I am free 🥳🥳🥳🥳

  • void
    4·
    16 days ago

    what absolute shit. im sorry :(

    • 999
      3·
      16 days ago

      glad you are rid of him now at least

  • RtHonAlice
    2·
    16 days ago

    I really wonder if they are unable or unwilling to understand? Why are cissoids like this? Just privilege?

    • AllieOP
      5·
      16 days ago

      There are the rare cool ones, but in general… I think they see this as a hobby. Like it’s someone who’s getting a little too into Warhammer figurines and they just need to be reminded that there’s other interests in life.

      • RtHonAlice
        4·
        16 days ago

        True. And many people perpetuate this stereotype, especially the “HRT is unnecessary and passing doesn’t matter” crowd. I love telling cissoids about the symptoms and ramifications of dysphoria because it usually makes them go “holy shit, this is really bad and seriously ill” very quickly.

        Hot take: We need more visibly dooming tranners

          • AllieOP
            3·
            16 days ago

            Yeah I probably would’ve had the best chance of salvaging it by going with that approach but honestly I didn’t think I needed to! Like, when I told him about how I’d be getting started as my mid 30’s were ending, I thought that it was made clear, all the suffering and necessity. Maybe everything in the world is making all the cissoids worse about this.

            Though honestly, I should’ve done something sooner. My self-respect is a recent development, and there was some shit I’d let slide in the past. But I think the only way I’ll survive the contemporary moment is by saying “enough!”