everyone argues who is a passoid or a honlarper or whatnot. so here’s the secret truth woke is hiding from you. it’s actually not as simple as does or doesn’t pass. we can categorise as much as we want with twinkhons or semipassoids, but in some contexts, some features can be fully passing while otherwise being clocky. most trans women are in the grey area to some degree in some parts. and photos are a terrible way to know for sure.

basically stop fighting over this and hug it out instead

  • mel (malt)
    5·
    2 months ago

    people forget how people see you, the mirror and the phone are all really different

    • snoothon_possoid
      4·
      2 months ago

      true

      but also in some cases I genuinely don’t understand how can some trans women NOT PASS.

      no matter the height, do people really see a whole ass beautiful curvy woman and somehow think it’s a man?

      • Anna BolshevikOP
        2·
        2 months ago

        i feel that too about a lot of people here who say they don’t pass. but i don’t know, i don’t have cameras following their daily life to see how they get gendered. but i also know that i have a tendency to minimise or excuse being gendered as a woman with excuses when i’m not mentally stable, so it’s kind of impossible to know for sure online

        • snoothon_possoid
          2·
          2 months ago

          maybe that, some people ignore positive outcomes and overexaggerate single negative ones

          i.e. lie on the internet

      • mel (malt)
        1·
        2 months ago

        i mean your growth plates in your hip shut off at like 18-19 so if you have a wide bideltoid a lot of people are gonna read your body as masculine

    • Anna BolshevikOP
      2·
      2 months ago

      yeah the bane of my life ngl it makes it hard to tell which one is accurate

      • mel (malt)
        3·
        2 months ago

        i believe the mirror is the most accurate cameras distort a lot

        • Anna BolshevikOP
          2·
          2 months ago

          yeah but for me different mirrors seem different. like it’s dumb but my reflection in store windows outside always looks so ugly but at home the mirror in my room with good lighting doesn’t at all

          • mel (malt)
            2·
            2 months ago

            i guess its probably because you see a lot more detail in one plus it could also be the angle youre looking at plus distance probably plays a big factor