does anyone else have the belief that every cis lesbian is completely asexual, or at least has little interest in sex? ive never met one who has any sort of meaningful sex drive and its fucking me up (agp, likes women)… should i just go touch grass more or what i have no idea. all my friends are telling me that they observe the complete opposite and they have no idea where i get this notion from

  • Taru
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    1 month ago

    i think you’re probably just really unlucky :<

    i’ve met plenty of lesbians and most of them seem pretty open about it? they have tended to already be in relationships though. maybe it’s the spaces you’re finding these people in?

    • laplace_ttttransformOP
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      1 month ago

      my sample size is 3, tbh, maybe i just got an unlucky sample. 2 are from high school, and one is a friend’s sister. also trvke about being in relationships already… i live in a woke city that has a lesbian bar, though, and i would probably shoot myself before i walked in the door (invading women’s spaces), but i guess it proves that literally not every single one is already in a relationship

      • Taru
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        1 month ago

        yeah… that’s probably too few people to say they’re all asexual. idk much about you, but you could always try concerts or events or whatnot?

        i used to go to a lot of post-hardcore and metal concerts with a friend. or like maybe a local goth night? that’s where i’ve met most of them tbh.

        obviously those are pretty specific interests, but like generally, if you’re in a woke city, there’s probably something equivalent for whatever you like that happens semi-regularly.

        • laplace_ttttransformOP
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          1 month ago

          ive thought about this, ive tried going to certain events but i didnt make any lasting connections there, just people i talked to and left. also in my personal opinion it’s not too easy to even find events, im college age and everyone i know is in college (im in cummunity college lol no one talks to each other). ive thought about going to concerts but i dont have much money… and im also not even old enough to drink, so a bar isn’t an option either (usa moment). like i dont really know what to do to not be so lonely, it makes me quite sad

          • Taru
            2·
            1 month ago

            for real :(

            it’s basically impossible to find someone irl :<

            • laplace_ttttransformOP
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              1 month ago

              i know dating apps are the agents of satan, but sometimes, i feel tempted to use one, just so i dont feel unloveable and lonely