I REALLY dislike when Psychology turns a type of person into a disorder , I think it does incredible harm by making people feel destined to be a diagnosis rather than just a human being who can grow and evolve and change and improve.
i feel kinda helpless right now but thats not really how id phrase it. i accept that the issues i have are tendencies i will likely have to work against for my whole life, but i think everyone has some predispositions that are helpful and some that arent and that learning how to manage those is part of life
Sorry, I was unfairly projecting experiences I’ve had with some friends and people I love; and even in those situations I’m not frustrated with the people- but instead with the way Psychology treats/treated them.
I think you have your head screwed on quite rightly, and that your perspective seems reasonable as hell.
They way I improved things in my life was small concentric circles, starting with very intentional acts that felt anxiety-inducing but where I felt I had like, safe exit routes and such.
I would plan these things out a week or weeks in advance, knowing how I would get there, whether it would be something I could leave easily etc, but planning them made me feel more likely to actually do them.
Also, genuinely doing theatre stuff helped, because it was somehow easier to pretend to be somebody else and have my interactions with people in public be based off something I could practice in my room at home, and like over time, I think I felt more like a human who belonged in that space, for me my current version of this is poetry open mics.
You have the right mindset anyway, what are you r plans for the next few weekends ?
i totally get that but its kind of rude to come in on a vent post and start proselytizing about it lol
i dont really have a lot of plans for now but i think im gonna go back to the city for school in a couple weeks and ill have some more of those kinds of opportunities there
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Sorry I did assume a bit, what’s AVPD stand for?
avoidant personality disorder
Yeah
I REALLY dislike when Psychology turns a type of person into a disorder , I think it does incredible harm by making people feel destined to be a diagnosis rather than just a human being who can grow and evolve and change and improve.
ok
Do you feel like AVPD is a thing you will always be ?
And do you feel helpless to it ?
i feel kinda helpless right now but thats not really how id phrase it. i accept that the issues i have are tendencies i will likely have to work against for my whole life, but i think everyone has some predispositions that are helpful and some that arent and that learning how to manage those is part of life
Sorry, I was unfairly projecting experiences I’ve had with some friends and people I love; and even in those situations I’m not frustrated with the people- but instead with the way Psychology treats/treated them.
I think you have your head screwed on quite rightly, and that your perspective seems reasonable as hell.
They way I improved things in my life was small concentric circles, starting with very intentional acts that felt anxiety-inducing but where I felt I had like, safe exit routes and such. I would plan these things out a week or weeks in advance, knowing how I would get there, whether it would be something I could leave easily etc, but planning them made me feel more likely to actually do them.
Also, genuinely doing theatre stuff helped, because it was somehow easier to pretend to be somebody else and have my interactions with people in public be based off something I could practice in my room at home, and like over time, I think I felt more like a human who belonged in that space, for me my current version of this is poetry open mics.
You have the right mindset anyway, what are you r plans for the next few weekends ?
i totally get that but its kind of rude to come in on a vent post and start proselytizing about it lol
i dont really have a lot of plans for now but i think im gonna go back to the city for school in a couple weeks and ill have some more of those kinds of opportunities there