My gfs friend who she lives with says she noticed ive had a deep voice for a while now ( ~98 hz, been dropped for 3 months ish ) and says she feels bad abt calling me by my deadname still… i was also semi-outed kinda a couple months back ( when i was like one month hrt my gf used he/him on an ig story and deleted it, this person and m a few others saw it tho). Is this more embarrassing than just coming out bc i assumed nothing would be said until i did. What the fuck i kinda have to come out now right. I see her probably like next week ir smthn and i am NOT READY😭✌️

Reupload bc i accidentally uploaded to 4tranistan bc my mum called me mid post ( havent spoke to her in 4 months)

  • thrwy809
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    5 days ago

    yea i mean ppl u know always see u the same as pretransition in my experience. your voice is deeper than my lowest speaking voice though so there’s no way they haven’t noticed anything 😭

    • sea_manufacturer8748OP
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      5 days ago

      i mean at work when it first dropped i had a couple comments abt having a cold but now it has stopped. And nobody gaf anymore 😭😭😭 same with my flatmate and my other friends except no comments. I asked my gf a couple weeks back and she said it just sounds like ive overused it or shouted a lot so its not as good as u imagine

      • thrwy809
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        5 days ago

        they might’ve guessed already and just don’t wanna bring it up cause it’s awkward or cause you haven’t said anything

        • sea_manufacturer8748OP
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          5 days ago

          ehh maybe. i doubt it tho for work im always grouped in and refered to as ladies and shit like that . Flatmate most likely knows . Irl friends i dont see enough to have an understanding of where they place me. Did tell myself when i start passing ill come out. Guess i just gotta start doing it

          • thrwy809
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            5 days ago

            yea that’s fair. i didnt come out at work until like 2.5 years hrt and ffs and i still get misgendered by ppl there that knew me early/pre transition occasionally even now 1 year later. i think it’s hard to change ppls perception of u after they already know u one way

    • sea_manufacturer8748OP
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      5 days ago

      Fr so i thought whatever i can just not come out if it dont change anything😭🙏 how long test bro maybe itll keep dropping

      EDIT ok sorry i checked profile and ur a troon. #sorry it came across as no voice drop dood to me. Maybe u are luckshit or just trained really well so dw 😭🙏

      • thrwy809
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        5 days ago

        oh i’m on E now lmao but i trooned out at 22 so like 10 years?

      • thrwy809
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        5 days ago

        i don’t think i’m that much of a luckshit but my guy voice is like 140 average my lowest comfortable is 120 haha