I have one dood friend who I’ve known since before he pooned out and that’s it. My therapist thought it might be good to meet other LGBT people, but I don’t care for it at all, I think 4tranners are the only ones I could get along with. Generally speaking I try to keep trans shit out of my real life as much as possible and instead vent on the internet. How do you handle this? Do you actively look for LGBT acquaintances? I’d be interested in your stories.
How exactly? Also, where do you have to show up?
I met one cool person though frengen, but that eventually blew up. I met one cool person randomly in a university course I was taking where I asked them out for coffee because we had similar interests and stuff. I met a couple of other cool tranners from a tranny peer support group. Often the friendships happened pretty slowly at the beginning where we kinda just were going to the same place regularly and seeing each other there, and then at some point we decided to hang out.
I think that learning to get along with all sorts of different people or learning to tolerate people when they’re doing something that you find slightly annoying is going to help you even outside of the trans context. Of course you shouldn’t tolerate people being creeps, but if someone is just kinda sneedy I think you can live with that. Common sense and communication skills help a lot. For example if you go to a board game event with your university’s tranny club you probably won’t really fw most of the people there, but there is a small chance that there’s someone cool there, and that if you keep seeing each other there you’ll get to know each other. Btw some theyfabs are really cool, so keep an open mind!
Waow, thanks a lot for the really detailed answer!
Just to clarify, I wouldn’t mind becoming friends with somebody I get to know by chance who also happens to be LGBT. It’s just the seeking out deliberately that’s odd to me.
Sorry I’m really scatter brained, I don’t think I try to deliberately hang out with tranners ANYMORE, but I did before because I used to feel really lonely being the only trans person in some friend groups I had. It’s like I had this thing that was really important to me (not morally important, but more like significant), and no one could really relate to the unique challenges I had, so I really wished that I’d had at least one friend that understood that. Hanging out with other trans people and even talking to people here has really helped me with that feeling of not being understood.
Oh yeah, I understand that completely. My cissoid mates talking about mundane stuff while I’m melting down internally over some dysphoric shit without the opportunity to vent is awful, I feel like a pressure cooker about to explode. But apparently venting online is enough to me to cope with it. Still, it feels as if my and my friends’ lived realities are drifting apart, I more and more have the feeling I have nothing to talk about with them.
Well maybe it would really be a good idea to meet and talk with other tranners. If you often feel like a pressure cooker about to explode, idk if talking to people online is really enough to cope