im hideous so i cant even like. do anything
Idk dating apps, I’ve had 2 long term relationships from there including my lovely current partner. The first one was abusive poly shiy but that was mostly my fault for not respecting myself enough to leave sooner than I did.
why downcummy
same :(
What are you currently trying? How are you currently putting yourself out there?
(I know I get a well earned reputation as a bit of a bitch, but this is a topic I genuinely care about.)
i am currently posting on tranistan everyday in my room. i sometimes go to the kitchen. i put myself out there by taking out the trash and doing laundry once a week, where i avoid people as much as possible.
I can see that you can see the issue here, Good job on the first step, now for next steps, do you have any hobbies that hold any type of group activities?
Examples from my own life:
I love hiking and being in nature; So I looked online and found a tranny hiking group that meets like once every two months and I really enjoyed it, looking forward to the weather warming up so that I can get back out there 😌
I love dancing; So I found a queer friendly location that holds regular dance nights (and karaoke as a bonus!!!) and I started going there, met some lovely people there
I LOVE writing; So I found a cute book store that does a weekly open mic poetry night, and despite not yet like, making any new friends there yet (cause I wanted to be seen as a regular and respected as a writer before like, introducing myself), i love being in that space, because I’m usually one of 3 or 4 other trannies there
Also You’re Not The Only Person struggling with wanting to feel connected to people but not being great at meeting people- I have gone to plenty of things that are just like explicitly for people to meet one another, so those are an option too if you just need to like- practice socializing 🤷🏻♀️
If you put yourself into places that people are meeting over shared passions, than you’re far more likely to meet people who share those passions that you vibe with-
So what are your passions?
Mogs me in every conceivable way
Girl, I’m so old I’ve got moss growing behind my ears,
I’m so old I got beauty tips directly from Cleopatra herself,
When I was your age I was deeply depressed, and abusing opiates to numb the pain,
The mere fact that you’re on your way to beginning HRT at half my age means you mog me thoroughly in one of the most important ways 🫶🏻 and I’m damned proud of all the young women in here who have done the hard thing by hook or by crook - and it makes my soul sated to hear of you all living your lives.
If literally anything I can do or say or any help I can give, helps facilitate those lives being more fulfilling, than nothing in the world makes my heart happier 😌
Awww thank you
i like math, the tongva language and poetry, are my main three. i’ve been to my unis math club and i just ended up sat in the corner >.<. im very probably the most fluent tongva speaker still alive, most ppl of tongva descent only know like a phrase or two if that. and basically noone else knows the language exists. and im usually pretty private abt my poetry cause its personal and im neurotic abt being vulnerable.
Added bonus is that once you make a few friends with shared passions- they tell you of OTHER opportunities to share those passions, and they tend to be friends with people who you might also vibe with as friends.
The #1 thing I would say is to not look for capital L love, people can smell that and it’s alarming, just seek to make yourself open to new connections as human beings, and if Love makes sense, it’ll happen.
i see. ty
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