It’s exactly the same with racism, homophobia, sexism, ableism, any other phobia or ism. Whatever.

We aren’t magically good people just because we have dysphoria. The cis aren’t magically evil just because they aren’t.

I’m convinced there’s a lot of trans people that, if whatever gene that triggers dysphoria in us was gone, would be transphobic as cis people.

Humans are tribalistic as a leftover from the time we were monkeys. There’s an instinct in our brains to hate and fear anyone who isn’t exactly like us.

However, it’s 2026. That instinct isn’t needed anymore, and anyone with even a hint of emotional intelligence can and has overcome it.

Empathy is the biggest difference between a good and bad person. If you can look at someone who is suffering and think “that’s not good”, then you have the building blocks of what it takes to be kind. That’s not all you need, but that’s the start of it.

I’ve seen cis people with empathy. I’ve seen trans people without it.

Good trans people aren’t good because they’re trans, they’re good because they’re kind. Transphobic or shitty cissoids (don’t get me wrong, there are a lot) aren’t shitty because they’re cis, they’re shitty because they choose to hurt others.

  • blacktarheroine
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    4 days ago

    Suffering helps you understand pain. That teaches you empathy. Why do you think they struggle to see the world through our eyes? And don’t even get me started on race related stuff. Racism may not be built into white people, but it’s built into the system. And people are all too content to just be complacent. Though really, I disagree with the idea of empathy making the largest difference anyway. Good trans people aren’t good because they’re trans. They are good in part when they know what it means to suffer in a certain way. Really, I don’t care if they didn’t choose to be cis or not. Or if they chose to be white or not. It isn’t tribalism to see a pattern.

    • blacktarheroine
      3·
      4 days ago

      is this rant filled with personal spite? Yes. Does a grain of truth lie in it? Also yes.

    • YanaSolyahh
      1·
      3 days ago

      the only cis people who managed to show empathy to me and other trannies were people who also suffered to mental illnesses. My bestie is not trans but she suffered from depression and other shit from which she had to pull out herself. One dude I know online has a very severe OCD and potentially BPD

    • DeadlygiveawayOP
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      4 days ago

      Suffering can just as easily make people monsters. You know how many serial killers were abused as children?

      I don’t like the idea that we need to suffer to be good people. Hardship and challenge builds character, but suffering just leads to trauma, not character growth.

      I was bullied really, really badly as a kid. Not for being trans (wasn’t out until around 18) but for my autism. I was beaten severely and mentally tormented by my classmates because I was an easy target. That didn’t make me strong as I grew up. It made me passive, timid, and emotional.

      Some people have been through almost exactly what I have and used that as justification to do awful things.

      But there’s just as many people who have suffered like me or worse, and they became wonderful people. We don’t chose what we go through, we chose how to respond to it

      • blacktarheroine
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        4 days ago

        I sympathize with those terrible experiences. But it’s not about suffering alone. But understanding our unique suffering. They don’t want to, and don’t care to. Suffering is pointless. But they won’t empathize with us otherwise. It’s the only way a privileged group could ever really get it. They can’t empathize with us. And so, they will keep using systemic power to destroy us in every way they can.