It’s exactly the same with racism, homophobia, sexism, ableism, any other phobia or ism. Whatever.
We aren’t magically good people just because we have dysphoria. The cis aren’t magically evil just because they aren’t.
I’m convinced there’s a lot of trans people that, if whatever gene that triggers dysphoria in us was gone, would be transphobic as cis people.
Humans are tribalistic as a leftover from the time we were monkeys. There’s an instinct in our brains to hate and fear anyone who isn’t exactly like us.
However, it’s 2026. That instinct isn’t needed anymore, and anyone with even a hint of emotional intelligence can and has overcome it.
Empathy is the biggest difference between a good and bad person. If you can look at someone who is suffering and think “that’s not good”, then you have the building blocks of what it takes to be kind. That’s not all you need, but that’s the start of it.
I’ve seen cis people with empathy. I’ve seen trans people without it.
Good trans people aren’t good because they’re trans, they’re good because they’re kind. Transphobic or shitty cissoids (don’t get me wrong, there are a lot) aren’t shitty because they’re cis, they’re shitty because they choose to hurt others.
Suffering can just as easily make people monsters. You know how many serial killers were abused as children?
I don’t like the idea that we need to suffer to be good people. Hardship and challenge builds character, but suffering just leads to trauma, not character growth.
I was bullied really, really badly as a kid. Not for being trans (wasn’t out until around 18) but for my autism. I was beaten severely and mentally tormented by my classmates because I was an easy target. That didn’t make me strong as I grew up. It made me passive, timid, and emotional.
Some people have been through almost exactly what I have and used that as justification to do awful things.
But there’s just as many people who have suffered like me or worse, and they became wonderful people. We don’t chose what we go through, we chose how to respond to it
I sympathize with those terrible experiences. But it’s not about suffering alone. But understanding our unique suffering. They don’t want to, and don’t care to. Suffering is pointless. But they won’t empathize with us otherwise. It’s the only way a privileged group could ever really get it. They can’t empathize with us. And so, they will keep using systemic power to destroy us in every way they can.