Overall I think t4t relationship tend to work out better just because we know what we’ve been through but I think it’s cruel to tell every trans person dating a cis person that their partner definitely sees them as their natal sex. If you know the couple irl and can see signs the cis one is lying then yeah, call that shit out. But if it’s just a random c4t couple and there’s nothing pointing to abuse or lying on the cissoid’s part, it’s stupid to give the trans person brainworms