like, i’ll convince myself that it’s okay to buy this thing because i really, really need it! but, then, another thing will come along, and i’ll again manage to convince myself that it’s an absolute necessity, but it’ll definitely be the final purchase… then, there’s a third thing, and i know i told myself the previous thing would be the last, but this is also a necessary purchase, so this will have to be the last one instead. i’m absolutely not buying more things, tho! buuuuuuuuuut, this thing would also make my life so, so much better that i’m basically losing money if i don’t purchase it! and so on… 💀 like, i just randomly seem to completely lose all my impulse control. it was literally right there two weeks ago, functioning as it should… but now it’s just literally nowhere to be found 😭
I think what helps for me with stuff like this is creating an intermediary zone, like instead of going straight to purchasing, you have a notepad document called “I want to buy this” and instead of going straight to purchasing, it has to go into this document and be there for some number of days or weeks before you allow yourself to make the purchase
yea, see, that’s what i usually do when my impulse control is more intact… but now i just keep convincing myself to skip that step because i not only need to buy the thing, but also need to have it right now :ı
Ah yeah, that can be hard to hold yourself to the logic of it when everything’s all turned up. Honestly, it may simply be that you need to make it impossible for you to make purchases. Like when it’s impossible to not do something that you need to not be doing, the solution is to make it so you can’t do it.
that would be the smartest thing to do, yea… but i don’t really know how to make it impossible for myself. like, i don’t really have anyone i could give my credit card to :/