theres no emotional salve to ease the pain, theres no fix that can save them, no empathy or understanding is worth making it for them, and in the absence of hope it just comes off as sardonic

what can you even do for someone who wont make it

what can you even say to them? you can acknowledge their situation. high five while drowning dot jpeg. you can say oh maybe you still could make it and lie. hugboxxing. you can never outright agree with them because if they say ‘im a hon’ and you say ‘youre a hon’ those have two very different meanings. when someone says ‘im a hon’ theyre expressing dysphoria; when someone says ‘youre a hon’ theyre expressing the notion that they see the speaker as lesser, bc its worse to be a hon than a passoid.

( sure, it isn’t morally or inherently bad to be a hon, but i dont speak about morals and we dont live in a world where things are defined by their inherent properties. when a cissy says ‘you look trans’ it is an insult. it can be true and it is an insult; it can be not intended be an insult and it is an insult; it can be not perceived as an insult and it is an insult. )

you cant say anything or help them, just sort of talk about something else and distract them from the pain of not being able to make it. its kind of horrible. theyre sick people born into the world a hundred or two years before the invention of the medicine they need.

sorry if this comes off as condescending, i certainly dont mean it that way.