I may be too woke but I think being a trans man who owns a stuffed animal or has a fashion sense outside of t-shirts, hoodies and jeans doesn’t make you a hefab. Also, I think it’s possible for a trans man to date a bishit cismoid who geniuely does see him as a man. In fairness I’m close friends with a bi cis man who is genuinely very trans positive (how the fuck do you say not weird about trannies in a way that sounds normal?) so I’m probably biased.
I also saw one post that got mad at pooners calling themselves guys instead of men. Not like, only calling themselves guy and never men, but just referring to themselves in posts as " a trans guy". I get disliking when we call ourselves boys, but guys is too feminine now? Fuck off.
telling people you cant have a stuffed animal and be trans yeah thats childish and irrelevant but telling them that people especially men are likely to try to take advantage of them, even the ones that pretend they dont, is not “kind of fucked”, its for our safety and wellbeing. people are overdramatic about that stuff (you see it on the board a lot with trannies specifically) but you are way too worried about that and way not worried enough about the actual men doing the abuse who get away with it because of this type of rhetoric
I more meant it was fucked to tell every gayden dating a cisbi that he sees them as women without knowing their dynamic personally but yeah I see your point. I do think it’s something to look out for when starting a relationship to really evaluate if they really are bi and will treat you right. I was only trying to say that it’s fucked assume that was the case 100% of the time but I’m awful at getting my thoughts across