I appreciate the sentiment, but this really doesn’t seem like the place for this kind of motivation. People will just agree and move on. We are formed but our material reality, and that includes being trans. We do of course have the opportunity to change, but it’s hard to change years of mental programming and damage. I wouldn’t say most here are bad people, either.
I have friends and I’m quite happy. (Though I have my bouts of unhappiness as we all do) But I can’t imagine being motivated by this. having “no personality” doesn’t come from nowhere. I don’t think people like feeling like a disassociated husk with no personality, but it’s hard to build a self when such a vital aspect of that self (the material reality) is directly at odds with the mind.
It comes off more as talking down to others than a genuine good faith look into helping your community. It’s also counterproductive to make a post like this to a group of people who’ve said they’ve had this exact issue (feeling empty, unlovable and without a personality) that if they see this post and feel offended they have the problem you describe. It’s intentionally provocative. You know that, because the goal is to motivate. Severe mental illness and abuse harmed their journey to a more complete self like every other victims of abuse, what’s a shocker! Again, I think the sentiment comes from a good place, but would you feel comfortable saying this to any other group of mentally ill traumatized subset of people? At the very least, supplement the post with ways to help so people know you give a shit.
I appreciate the sentiment, but this really doesn’t seem like the place for this kind of motivation. People will just agree and move on. We are formed but our material reality, and that includes being trans. We do of course have the opportunity to change, but it’s hard to change years of mental programming and damage. I wouldn’t say most here are bad people, either.
I have friends and I’m quite happy. (Though I have my bouts of unhappiness as we all do) But I can’t imagine being motivated by this. having “no personality” doesn’t come from nowhere. I don’t think people like feeling like a disassociated husk with no personality, but it’s hard to build a self when such a vital aspect of that self (the material reality) is directly at odds with the mind.
It comes off more as talking down to others than a genuine good faith look into helping your community. It’s also counterproductive to make a post like this to a group of people who’ve said they’ve had this exact issue (feeling empty, unlovable and without a personality) that if they see this post and feel offended they have the problem you describe. It’s intentionally provocative. You know that, because the goal is to motivate. Severe mental illness and abuse harmed their journey to a more complete self like every other victims of abuse, what’s a shocker! Again, I think the sentiment comes from a good place, but would you feel comfortable saying this to any other group of mentally ill traumatized subset of people? At the very least, supplement the post with ways to help so people know you give a shit.
Thank you, truly.
I think I will begin working on building out this philosophy and expressing it in a more coherent constructive way.
Because I do earnestly believe in it, but obviously yes, it’s a sharp and prickly thing that I hurled headlong into a crowd holding balloons.
If nobody explained exfoliation to me and then started on my skin with pumice I’d probably think “Wtfx why are you rasping my skin red?!?”
No problem. I truly do respect the sentiment. It comes from a place of love.
Especially if that person then said “Shut up you stupid bitch it’s good for you!” 🙋🏻♀️