my mom got dementia and left the house a few months back and my dad was abusive towards mostly her and me a little bit, since shes left hes had days where im taking the brunt of his verbal abuse, especially when I ignore him. I still live in a red state, I have friends I can live with in a blue state thats somewhat nearby (I wont have my own room but it’s atleast something) and I am not that close with them, I’m also not sure whether I should manmode or not, I’ve never been gendered male by people outright in liberal areas but that probably isn’t a good thing considering when I’m with my boyfriend people just referred to us as “guys”, I just want a job and stability. Every single day I wake up in a room with no air conditioning drenched in sweat heart racing and I’m sick of it, I hate my father and I want to just get away from him, I’m just afraid that I’m not cut out to get a job because of the autism or maybe I won’t pass enough for it. What do I do? sorry if the post is not formatted well I haven’t been able to get good sleep in a long time.
I don’t know, sorry. But if you are going to move out and live with your friends, you need to be sure you would be able to get a job relatively quickly, considering they are not your close friends and probably wouldn’t want you to stay long. If you didn’t change documents and can reliably manmode, better do it, it’s much harder to get a job as a troon, even in the most liberal places.


