like objectively thats pos behaviour
Circumstances
i mean shed still be just as hurt if she found out, idk
I mean none of this is your fault though all your actions serve the purpose of keeping her alive while minimizing your own misery, i don’t see how that’s evil at all
So if a partner threatened suicide if I didn’t detrans I’d be a bad person for not detrooning right
Or does it only work your way around
that does feel morally different to me but i couldnt tell you why
Bias
That’s why
It’s literally the exact same situation past some minor irrelevant background stuff
Ok actually a more accurate scenario would be a pre troon wanting to troon while being in a relationship but the partner threatening suicide if that happens tbf but still, would that make the troon evil for trooning?
i mean no but that still feels morally different from my situation idk…
Yeah literally just a self hating bias then
Are u an foid or an chud
an chud ig
So you want to be a man but she’s a lesbian?
yeah
That sucks, she’s transphobic?
shes trans, shes just very dependent on me, very mentally ill and would khs if we had to break up
And your sure she would break up with you if you transitioned
certain, im also certain shed khs if we broke up (it very very nearly happened before)
Maybe she’s a pos if she’d KILL herself if she found out ur on hormones??? Like you’d still love her after, it’d just be different
It’s selfish on her end, and u aren’t responsible for what other people do if you’re not like actively hurting them for real. I get it’s tough but if she wouldn’t love u as a man that is solely on her
She’s a lesbian and is highly dependent on me, I get why she would she cant change her sexuality
Yea it sucks that’d you’d have to break up, but again her emotional state about that is not on you!
Are u talking financially or just interpersonal dependent?
Kinda both? Shes trans and her family isnt supportive, shes reliant on our relationship for a visa here so if we broke up shed likely become homeless in her home country. Im also kinda the only person she has she cut basically everyone off and has no family (obviously)
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U should elaborate on these things b4hand if u want actual advice
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This type of thing isn’t new and having a lavender relationship is an option, there’s a way through this without her having to khs and it’s still shitty that it’s a threat looming behind ur back when there’s options
having a lavender relationship is an option
yeah… id be willing to do this but i highly doubt shed accept this tbh, she has quite bad bpd and obviously its a huge risk to take offering. idk
U both still love eachother, just things will change a lot. It’s a healthy thing people can do
Unmanaged bpd is a mf though, EVEN still it doesn’t absolve her of accountability if she offs herself and if she specifically threatens u with it that’s really bad and not okay!
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There’s no objectivity when it comes to the subjective
subjectively thats pos behaviour then…
