So much of womanhood seems to be build on the shared suffering of woman and so much of female solidarity on the fight against that suffering and since biopolitics is the main patriarchical mechanism behind this suffering … being trans fundamentally alienates me from female sisterhood and when this is mentioned trans women are told that we fetishize female pain… but we dont want it because we somehow want to ridicule or make light of it…

Please… please listen:

Rather… we beg to be accepted by other women as real women and beg to share their pain so that we can fight against the opression of all women together… because we yearn to offer empathy that doesnt ring hollow… to say that we can understand their pain and truly mean it.

We wanna know and share this female pain not out of some perverted dramatisation of womanhood… not out of some invasive wish to make light of female pain… not to distort nor deny nor ignore differences… but rather because this wish is the empathetic cry of the ones who wish they knew the pain of the opressed so that they can extend to them an empathy and solidarity that holds value, that is not lesser than the empathy and solidarity that the opressed extend amongst each other… to be not visitors to womanhood but daughters of it.

But why… why must we be cursed to never be women enough in the eyes of those who see in this wish not a yearning to show solidarity, not as outsiders but as members of the female sex… why to be denied and even lumped in with the opressor… to be told we cannot ever understand… are cursed by some remnent of maleness… some original sin of socialisation and biology that will forever deny us the epistemic belonging that we seek…

But then again I must ask… are all women the same… the same in the way that they are raised… experience the body… and are subject to the opression by patriarchy… surely they share more experiences amongst each other than they do with us but how much… how much is the myth of inevitable female pain the thing that excludes us from our empathy being of equal worth in the female struggle and how much does this myth uphold the systems that keeps all women trapped in this immiserating understanding of womanhood and feminity… when there is so much love and care… so much beauty and soul shared among al of us…

Why would we sigh and cry over our lack of shared pain when there is joy to be found in female community and yet too deep are the systems of biological oppression ingrained in our world… and so we must acknowledge the difference and yet plead and beg nontheless to be seen as real women and yearn to know… to share in the experience of this pain so that our sisterhood is not of lesser value… this is all we ask… to not be scourned for the knowledge we wish we had but were denied by some cruel sick joke of birth and society…

We may never know this certain type of pain but know of it and some of it but still even if we are to say that we will never know… do not see us as lesser sisters… or as the ones who caused you pain… we are not men… and we suffer at their hands as well… believe us… we want nothing more than to be your sisters… believe us…

it is not the fantasy of an opressor to know the pain of the opressed…