good post!

well. i’m bi, but i lean way more towards men. he should be a Bear first of all, just big, burly, hairy. black hair, a full beard, a barrel belly, a big deep laugh. i love Bears, especially if they are loud and proud. my man would wear his heart on his sleeve and be honest to a fault so i would never have to guess at his emotions. he would be my opposite in a lot of ways, like he’d be friendly, outgoing, streetwise in ways im not. he wouldnt be as nerdy as i am. he’d have few problems getting stuff done, like adult stuff, even if he has lazy days. maybe he’s a lout and a grouch and blunt, but to make up for it hed be a cuddlebug and he’d always remember i’m there. he would take the lead, but he would put my input above anyone else’s. he wouldnt forget that i’m there, just like i’d never forget me. he would always wait for me to catch up when we’re out. we would able to do all the fun stuff together like travelling, camping, trying new things. and he wouldnt be much interested in things like the internet and social media. i would feel safe to be myself around him, and he would feel safe in my arms as well. we would bicker about dumb things, because arguing can be fun sometimes, but always work it out. like we could wrestle for fun. he’d feel secure if i need time by myself. we would defend each others quirks, but also gently tease each other. we would push each other to do our bests, like he would encourage me to come out of my shell and i could help him cool off (minmax relationship lol). we’d have similar goals, like no kids, no extended family butting in, pooling our income for travel and hobbies, maaaybe buy a house together. he would want to grow old with me. he would dance with me in our living room, and not call it silly… yknow, stuff like that.