I used to think that I was just coping because I don’t and won’t ever pass as a woman, but lately I’ve been entertaining the thought that maybe the reason why I’m so incredibly uncomfortable with all of this, cringe whenever I’m called she/her or whatever irl and so scared to come out is because I’m trying to force myself into a box that I just don’t belong in. Clearly being a man wasn’t a good fit for me, which is why all of this started in the first place, but why does it make me so uncomfortable to consider myself a woman even years into HRT?

  • Browshade
    4·
    5 days ago

    Enby cope is when ppl treat you like an enby/3rd gendered tranny so u contort ur identity to fit that perception so it doesn’t feel bad to be seen as such

    t. Former enby coper

    • Wandering
      4·
      5 days ago

      there’s so many of us 😭

      like getting they/them’d or even he/him as a binary trans woman is so humiliating that I tried to cope I was okay with “they/them” or even “any” pronouns before I wasn’t a voicehon anymore

  • nowhere girl
    3·
    5 days ago

    there is no trvth. if you want to be an enby, be an enby. noone’s stopping you

    • nebyOP
      3·
      5 days ago

      I don’t “want” to be anything tbh. I just want to feel comfortable with who I am and be able to tell what’s going on with me.

      • nowhere girl
        2·
        5 days ago

        then if calling yourself an enby would make you more comfortable, do that

  • t. choder
    2·
    5 days ago

    My honest opinion is basically:

    Binary trannies transition not only to run away from their natal sex, but specifically to be the sex opposite to their natal sex.

    Enby trannies are mostly concerned with running away from the morphological destiny of their natal sex. Sex is changed, but typically not all the way.

    Binary stuff is complete aversion to the side of human sexual distribution they started at and unambiguous attraction to its opposite, nonbinary stuff is varying degrees of aversion to both ends, with enough discomfort with where you started to want to do something about it.

    Some nbs might be MtX’s that womancope or FtX’s that mancope, others might actually get on specialized hrt regimens and undergo surgeries that make their phenotype more ambiguous and interchangeable; but the point is, if your starting point is male, an nb is not going to have the usual motivations to transition, of wishing they were a woman. If they seem to, it’s purely because women are not men. But that approach has a tendency to boomerang. I’ve been womancoping for 5 years and honestly I’m extremely fatigued from it. Insulating myself in an irl social circle that sees me as nb and actually treats me as such would probably in-large-part fix me, but I find the prospect of even trying to too intimidating. I feel the need to keep the charade up until I at least get ffs. Regarding myself as nb feels on the same level as announcing to the world I’m faketrans and don’t deserve medical care…