The unfortunate truth is that the easiest way to do this is to get female friends and kinda chameleonmode until it no longer feels like being a social chameleon, and eventually you settle into a version of womanhood that is both suitably “you” and not clockably male-coded.

But if you were to go at this less bravely, you’d just have to observe trends in behavior and thinking amongst women on the internet. Join female-centric communities or follow female-centric #'s, whether that be Discord or Reddit or Tumblr or whatever, even if it’s just to observe. See what shows they’re watching, books they’re reading, hobbies they’re engaging in, music they’re listening to, get insight into their perspectives on life, observe their writing quirks and incorporate them into your speech, exercise your basic capacities for putting yourself in their shoes, don’t let those skills atrophy. Maybe make some female internet friends if irl is too intimidating. Consider using Tumblr or some shit if you wanna become the queen of fembrain. If your family aren’t all transphobic assholes maybe hang out with a sister more often, or some other relative.