It’s not that she has irreconcilable views, it’s that she’s sadly very absolute and treats her assumptions as conclusions. She’s very millennial in some ways. She’s not actively maliciously transphobic, she’s ignorant, and might make fun of trans people, and has joked many times about violently leaving if her girlfriend comes out as trans. The thing is that her girlfriend is my best friend, who doesn’t share those views and she’s accepting. She doesn’t agree with the friend in question but also she’s not in a hurry to fix her views, since it doesn’t affect her directly or indirectly.

I haven’t come out to either, they think I’m just gay.

  • RadishEnglish
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    1 month ago

    Try to talk with her about this, if possible. Set the boundaries of what you can tolerate. Ignorance can be cured if the person in question wishes it, and considers you valuable enough in their life.

  • SamanthaSpino
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    1 month ago

    she’s sadly very absolute and treats her assumptions as conclusions

    I hate people like this so much. People who have 0 critical thinking skills and act as if they are an expert in every topic they talk about

    Also, I think coming out to her really might be the only way. Either she will value your friendship over her bigotry and maybe someone close to her being trans would make her reconsider her position… or she won’t and she’ll cut you off. Either way, I think it’s the only real way to at least make her try to think about it