I know some BPD people are hell on Earth, and I know some BPD people who are great people but just suffer a lot.

BPD doesn’t make a person inherently evil; I would say that take removes away from the fact that BPD people do, in fact, have control over their actions. To me, it is much more important that someone is willing and trying to change.

Even with the recent drama, what stands out more to me is that one person is a user who refuses to grow as a person and look in the mirror, and one person is an enabler who should have cut contact with the other way earlier and kept it that way.