this goes for any kind of relationship. straight, gay, t4t, c4t, etc. relationships where one person is clearly doing most of the emotional and material labor themselves are ripe for the building of resentment and abandonment which fuels self destructive tendencies and desire for said unequal relationships even more.

being dysfunctional and needing help isnt a sin or crime, but you need to at least be willing to work on yourself and put in some effort to reciprocate an equal amount of labor in whatever ways you can manage.

the only people who are long term going to be okay with being your mommy or daddy are people who are likely just using you and will abandon you as soon a they get bored.