He sent me this:

"What did I mean? Well, as I said before, submission is about feeling pleasure and physical and psychological excitement in surrendering.

You escape to your mental corner and switch off, so there’s no psychological submission. And you’re also full of physical triggers and don’t really like doing most of what partners like without switching off as well.

That’s not submission, that’s tolerance.

If you tolerate everything, even if you don’t like it, that’s also interesting, but a dominant person, who likes submission, likes the other person to also feel pleasure and desire them in the process, otherwise they wouldn’t feel pleasure either. There are those who just like to subjugate, not caring if the person is just a giant masturbator, but I’m not one of those."

I got dumped for being too fucked up? Seriously?!

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